Sunday, 20 July 2014

THE DOTING DAUGHTER

I try to be.....


After 40 years of committing to his job and working for the same company since leaving school, my dad decided to hang up his boots and retire in March 2014. Is it out of the ordinary for a daughter to envy their pensioner father? I don’t mean to wish my life away but I do relish the idea of discarding my alarm clock and having a life which revolves around deciding each day what I can do to occupy all my spare time – where week days and weekends all roll in to one.

Four months in to his retirement and my dad is still living the life of 'riley' and often preaches that he still feels like he is on holiday; however, I have made it my duty to ensure that he doesn't sink into the deep depths of some of the negative stereotypes that are out there about retirees: that pensioners get up, eat, read the paper, sleep, watch TV, sleep etc.

Dementia has been in the news recently because future projections suggest that the number of people with dementia will double in the next 40 years, and increasing age is a well-known risk factor. There is some evidence to suggest that rates of the disease are lower in people who remain as mentally, physically and socially active as possible throughout their lives, as well as among those who enjoy a wide range of different activities and hobbies. For this reason, I've always attempted to keep my parents' mind, body and soul stimulated, but particularly my dad during his retirement. The most recent thing I have done is treat him to some golf lessons for his birthday; isn't that the kind of sport old, retired men do (sorry pops)?

He had his first personal golf lesson this week, which he thoroughly enjoyed, and I decided to accompany him, Zatchels satchel in tow. I’m just considering what else I can get him involved in now – any ideas welcome, we've got to keep our old folks on the ball?








I even tried my hand at a spot of golf too - I won't tell you how many swings it took for me to actually hit the freakin' ball


We finished the lesson with a well-deserved drink!
Later x

16 comments:

  1. Hi Colleen! I know what you mean but then Im sure you will get soon bored! So enjoy working, there is the right age to be retired :) And regarding your dad, you are very sweet with him. Golf lessons are a great ideas and Im sure you also have enjoyed watching him. You could also take him for a walk, food shopping, new books to read, outdoor activities or even book a little trip for him. Oh, you are so stylish even when playing!:) Many kisses lady! xo

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    1. Thanks for your suggestions Lilli and I agree i probably would get bored ha
      Colleen x

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  2. Love the casual outfit on you. white and beige really suits you. Your father looks rather trim and fit too - genes? I think this is a great highlighted issue. I think it is a huge neglected problem and the topic is always cancer but dementia affects people just like cancer but there is less help and knowledge. Has he considered volunteering one day a week somewhere? relationships and socialability is another preventative measure. Plus it gives a sense of ownership. A new skill as well that requires brain synapses like carpentry or cooking? I think self worth is another big issue and people forget that brain is a muscle too. You are a great daughter and golf will be great for him to continue xx

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    1. Oh he'll get such a big head with your compliment - genetic and environmental I'd say. Thanks for your suggestions Naomi x

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  3. Dear Colleen, how wonderful that you take so much care about your father! Wish him that he will love to play golf! My father is in retirement since more than 20 years and so I think he is really experienced regarding this phase of the life. He is doing many undertakings with my mother, e. g. bike tours, travelling, hikes, walks and at least one time a week he goes to the inn to play the card game "sheepshead". Maybe one of those things is appropriate for your father, too?

    And last but not least for sure I love your classy look and your Zatchels!

    Wish you a happy new week, dear Colleen.

    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

    International giveaway: Unpardonable fault and compensation
    www.dressedwithsoul.com

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    1. wow! 20 years it will be interesting to see what my dad will be doing then. Thanks Rena x

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    2. I wish your Dad during this 20 years only the best :) x

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  4. I'd say reading, socialising, board games, arts, museums - anything that keeps the brain occupied. It's a different time now though - I never plan to retire - love what I do & love my life! That should keep the brain cells ticking over!

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  5. You do have a lovely job - I'll hold you to that and see whether you do ever retire ha. Thanks for your suggestions x
    Colleen

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  6. Dear Colleen, sometime i wish i could go in retire. And i dream about, to make sport everyday and have enough time for my blog. But i think like Lille, i´m sure over time it would be a little bit boring. BTW, i need enough money for all my bags and shoes. ;)

    Even golf playing you looks so stylish., love your bag.

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  7. You certainly are a doting daughter, Colleen - your dad is lucky to have you! [And I'm lucky that my dad hates golf, so when he retires we can find a sport with a larger ball that will be easier for me to hit ;)] As for other activities, that's a tough one, but I will say one things. My elderly relatives who seem to have stayed the sharpest are the ones who play a musical instrument. And of course, even if you don't play one when you retire, it's never too late to learn!
    xox,
    Cee

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  8. You are definitely an amazing daughter. Your dad's lucky to have you.
    Golf lessons , sounds really interesting.

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  9. you are great, I love golfing with my dad too! :)

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  11. Just catching up on your posts now that I'm back from my holiday. Your Dad certainly deserves to enjoy his free time now after 40 years at work and the golf lessons are a great idea. You look like you were having fun too. Lovely neutral outfit and perfect for the occasion! I think any activity which keeps the body and brain active is worthwhile. I can see why your Dad would feel that he is on an extended holiday - weekend every day!

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  12. It's really sweet of you to be spending time with your dad after his retirement. I'm very sure your dad appreciates it a lot. You look so fashionable playing golf and I love all the photos taken. I wanted to keep in touch and follow you but I can't seem to find GFC or bloglovin button on your blog. I do hope we stay in touch!

    Jo
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